Dear Cornerstone Family,
I wonder how many different medicines and how many therapy sessions could be attributed to the cost of bitterness? 1 Corinthians 13:5 (NLT) tells us, “Love keeps no record of being wronged,” but that isn’t how many of us live our lives, is it?
The sad truth is that holding a grudge mainly hurts us and not the person we are angry at. Even though we have heard this before, many of us limp along with this toxin of bitterness deep inside of us that affects our health and our relationships. Hebrews 12:15 (NLT) says, “Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.”
Can you imagine missing out on God’s grace? Bitterness carries a high price tag.
Some of us have buried the pain so far down that we have failed to acknowledge our hurt. We say that we are “fine,” because we have compartmentalized the pain and locked it away. The problem is that it’s eating us up inside. In order to move forward, we need to be honest with ourselves, with God, and a trusted friend.
You cannot forgive a wound that you have not acknowledged and a trusted friend can help you keep honest. Psalm 73:21-22 (NLT) is written from a high priest who discovers this truth as he wrote, “Then I realized that my heart was bitter, and I was all torn up inside. I was so foolish and ignorant— I must have seemed like a senseless animal to you.”
Yes, bitterness can make us act crazy. Only the truth can set us free.
How do you start to forgive someone who has deeply hurt you? I would begin by praying for them. This is one of the first steps in forgiveness. In Matthew 5:43-44 (NIV) Jesus said, “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”
As you begin to pray for them, God will begin working on your hurt.
As you ask for God’s mercy and grace upon their lives, you will be reminded of how much God has forgiven you. Colossians 3:13 (NLT) tells us, “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.”
Following THE Leader with you,
Pastor Ed Turley
Cornerstone Church of Poway
Partnership Class – October 15, 2017:
Karen and I will be teaching our church Partnership class on Sunday, October 15, from 12:30-3:00 pm in the Café. In this informative class you will learn more about our theology, mission, and vision. To sign up please mark your connection card or call the church office. Lunch and childcare will be provided.
Cornerstone House Clean-Up – October 20 & 21, 2017:
Volunteers needed… If you have some time on October 20 & 21, we will be having a general clean-up of our house property located here on Cornerstone’s campus from 8 am – 3 pm. Come and help as long as you can, anything you can do would be greatly appreciated. Lunch will be provided. For questions, see Pastor Ed or contact the church office at 858-748-2327.
Men’s Breakfast – October 28, 2017:
Calling all men! We are having a Men’s Breakfast on Saturday, Oct. 28, in the church café at 8am. This is a great opportunity to invite a friend to Cornerstone and gather together with other men to build relationships. Sign up at the table in the courtyard.